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ENNEAGRAM



ENNEAGRAM is a transformational journey to self-knowledge and understanding of other people and the world. It reveals nine subconscious motives. Depending on which one has the strongest impact, unique character types are formed with their inherent strategies for instincts, emotions and thinking. It also reveals how our behavior changes in different situations in life. In other words, the Eneagram describes nine fundamentally different ways of perceiving reality.

Benefits and applicability:

By finding out what the subconscious motive is affecting our lives, we can clearly understand our reactions, relationships, and recurring events. It has a therapeutic effect as it allows you finally understand and accept yourself. Only by understanding our subconscious needs and fears we can change their impact on our lives.

The Eneagram also helps to understand that other people can think, behave, and react completely differently. Understanding their motives can make their life strategies much more tolerant and take their relationship to a higher level.

Areas of use: 

Self-knowledge and personality growth; Relationships, parenting; Psychotherapy and coaching; Business and human resources; Social Sciences; Creativity.

History:

The name of the Enneagram consists of the Greek words ennea-nine and gram-figure. It is a synthesis of ancient spiritual sources and modern psychoanalytic psychology. Although it is still unclear how, where and when the symbol itself originated, it has been introduced to the modern world by a well-known philosopher, the mystic Gregory Gurdjieev. The model he taught was about the universal laws of the universe, and the training was for awareness development.

The Enneagram we have today was introduced in the 1970s by philosopher Oscar Ichaz. He was the first to describe the 9 basic psychological motives and their thinking and behavior.

Claudio Narancho, a renowned psychiatrist and Gestalt therapist, was one of O. Ichaz's first students. He has conducted, substantiated and developed clinical studies of Enneatypes psychology, which describes stereotypical patterns of behavior.

 

Structure:

Basic Type: We use a variety of behavioral scenarios in our daily lives, but only one type of Enneagram defines our subconscious motive.

Centers: The centers described in the Enneagram correspond to the types of intelligence used in our lives: heart center - emotional intelligence (EQ); head center - thinking Intelligence (IQ); body center - instinctive intelligence (BQ).

Transitions in stress / comfort: Unlike other typologies, the Enneagram is a dynamic model. It describes how a person's behavior changes in a state of comfort and stress.

Wings: Each type may feel the effect of one or two adjacent types. It can change with the year.

Instincts: There are three instincts: Self-protection, Social, and Sexual. One of them is dominant.

Health Levels: There are nine levels of health that show how distorted our inner nature is.

 

ENEAGRAM TYPES:


Type 1 - PERFECTIONIST

Life Strategy: Controlling yourself and striving for perfection.
Type 1 people are very responsible and honest. Constantly improving themselves and the environment. Value ​​rules, adhere to agreements. They like to give advice and tell people what is right and what is not, with the sacred belief that it will be useful to them.

Verbal and non-verbal features:

- Collects correct words, sentences are short, pauses, significant tone.
- Tense jaw, lip pressed, straight posture, gestures below, serious.
- Communication is about showing excellence, decency and earning their respect. Anxiety about being valued.

Beliefs:

  • I know what is right. More than anyone else, they improve themselves so they are convinced that their perception of reality is the most accurate and that their views and attitudes are the most accurate. This belief allows 1 to be self-confident, to take a leadership or even a reformer position in various spheres of life. However, it also has the negative effect of being too critical of a different view.
  • If you can't do something perfectly, don't do it at all. The pursuit of excellence makes the 1 true professionals in their work. They delve into the slightest nuances and fulfill all the requirements very carefully. However, their pursuit of excellence can make it difficult for them to complete their work as new nuances are emerging.
  • Rational people should not show destructive feelings. In order to be perfect, the 1 carefully control what and how they speak, how they appear in front of other people, and are convinced that the open expression of emotions (especially anger) is a sign of immaturity and irrationality. This belief forces them to pinch and accumulate negative emotions within themselves.

Risk:

An internal critic. In order to improve and make the world better, 1 must be perfect themselves. They have a highly developed Inner Critic - the wiser part of the personality who is responsible for ensuring that 1's do not get lost in the path of truth. That voice reminds us of the importance of adherence to principles, and of the need for pleasure and rest. The inner critic does not allow them to relax and at the same time freely express their emotions.

Stress / Comfort:

To 4 (Individualist): Faces with trapped negative emotions, begins to feel sorry for himself, realizes that doing right is not a guarantee of respect for them.

To 7 (Enthusiast): Frees from control and delights in fun and relaxation.


Type 2 - HELPER

Life strategy: Focus on other people's needs and become irreplaceable.

Type 2 people are great friends who are constantly trying to show how important and dear you are to him. First they help others, and only then take care of themselves, sincerely wishing that others will not fall short. Expect people to appreciate it and be grateful. They find it difficult to acknowledge their needs and do not ask for help.

Verbal and non-verbal features:
- A gentle, calm tembre. Seductive intonation. Talk about loved ones, not yourself.

- Open close contact, playfulness, smile, open gestures in the heart area.
- Communication quickly brings with it a sense of closeness and a "binding bond". Keeping boundaries is difficult. Flirt.

Beliefs:

  • Other people's needs are more important than personal needs. 2 are too responsive to other people's needs. Because of their sensitivity and empathy, they know how to support and help during difficult times. By caring for others, the 2 get recognition and respect, and feel they have contributed in part to the happiness and success of those people.
  • Taking care of yourself is selfish. The 2 are confident that others will love them only if they are constantly cared for and supported. By giving up their needs, sacrificing them for the benefit of other people, the 2 expect to receive appreciation and praise, which makes them feel needed and happy.
  • I am only valuable when I help others. This belief encourages 2 to meet other people's needs to the maximum, as they maintain their own worth. The thought of feeling valuable in other ways also causes 2 to fear that they may have to deal with their own emotions and such a huge flow of their own needs that they will be impossible to fulfill.

Risk:

Addiction. In order to become irreplaceable, to make other people dependent on their help, the 2 themselves become dependent on appreciation and gratitude. They can avoid ending a worthless relationship by arguing that the partner will not survive without them, although in fact, it is the 2 who gives this sense of value. They can even manipulate themselves by demonstratively assuming the role of a martyr. So beyond conscious altruism, there is often a subconscious need for gratitude and recognition.

Stress / Comfort:

To 8 (Boss): Begins to understand their needs, blames loved ones for being exploited, can claim and threatens to stop caring.

To 4 (Individualist): Relax, devote time to self-realization, creativity, self-interest.


Type 3 - ACHIEVER

Life Strategy: To strive for success and admiration for other people.
Type 3 people are very motivated, always busy because they have many goals, ambitions. Everything in them, from gestures, speech to details of clothing, shows how successful they are. They are incredibly energetic, capable of doing several jobs at once and constantly striving for something. Maximizing your time, managing obstacles flexibly, and investing in self-improvement.

Verbal and non-verbal features:
- Speaks quickly and smoothly, high voice timbre, topics about goals and achievements.
- High speed, broad smile, wide movements of hands in heart area, internal pulsation.
- Communicating gives you the feeling that you are not successful enough. The desire to impress with efficiency and effectiveness.

Beliefs:

  • There is nothing impossible. 3 believe that life is full of all sorts of opportunities, and to achieve absolutely everything, you just have to work hard and work hard. And certainly this belief helps them achieve incredible success. Often reaches career highs.
  • I'm very efficient, my possibilities are limitless. Workaholics go deeper into new areas of life, as long as it helps to achieve their goals and gives up what is impeding. Does not go into insignificant details, details. Adapts to any situation for maximum benefit. They value their time very much because it is the only resource they may lack.
  • First imoression is most important. It is very important to give the impression of a successful person. They instinctively feel about how to act. It's a bit casual, but boasts of a nameplate, a luxury watch or a car. Likes to give precious gifts.

Risk:
Masks and roles. 3 are more focused than others on their image. They try to show themselves at their best by hiding their flaws. They quickly identify the environment they need to be in and adapt flexibly. But as they adjust to other people and situations, the 3s risk forgetting their values. They do not express their true emotions, hide them behind the mask of a successful person, or even take on the role that it becomes like a new identification. Even close ones find it difficult to see their true personality, which makes it very difficult to maintain close relationships. Despite the admiration and success, the 3 can feel lonely. Relationships become as superficial and fake as the image they create.

Stress / Comfort:

To 9 (Peacemaker): No more prioritization, no efficiency, everything seems pointless.

To 6 (Skeptic / Loyalist): Decrease pace, take a look at your life, and wonder what for all of those achievements are.


Type 4 - INDIVIDUALIST

Life Strategy: Comparing yourself to other people and striving for uniqueness.
Type 4 people are the most sensitive. Every detail, from original clothes to a mysterious smile, emphasizes their individuality, uniqueness and exclusivity. Their inner world is full of feelings that need to be expressed. And that helps 4 become genius creators. They like to delve into their own and other people's experiences, the inner world.

Verbal and non-verbal features:
- The gentle voice, the dramatizing words, does not end the sentences, "reads the thought".
- Often gasping, blushing, sinking, sad tired face, hiding emotionality.
- There is a sense of hopelessness and sadness when communicating. Desire to support, help, or entertain.

Beliefs:

  • I'm not like everyone. Something is wrong with me. 4 are trying to figure out what they really are for who they are. When trying to find answers, you compare yourself to other people. They seem to find other people's lives simpler, easier, and not given the recipe for happiness. Identifies oneself with feelings and seeks to express them as much as possible, but those around them do not always withstand such a surge of emotions.
  • What I need is the outside world. 4 constantly feel that they are missing something very important. They seek ideality, their own fullness. Lost in themselves, they try to find something on the outside to complement and support them.
  • Better to die than to live a gray life. The intensity of survival is very important for 4. Because of this, they are ready to sacrifice their happiness, security, convenience. A peaceful, stable life causes longing, depression, from which you try to be called external stimuli. Only strong emotions make them alive and increase creativity


Risk:
Self-criticism. Any phrase uttered in the 4 can release the mechanism of the inner critic, who moves on to self-destruction, the undermining of personal values. This affects the low self-esteem of 4 and their tendency to depression. On the other hand, self-criticism encourages improvement, seeking recognition. They desperately need the attention of those around them, but are often timid because of increased self-criticism.

Stress / Comfort:

To 2 (Helper): Changes the focus from oneself to other people, tries to please them, meets their needs.

To 1 (Perfectionist): Becomes more rational, concentrates on tasks, decisions. Feelings go into the background. Adapt your uniqueness to find solutions and achieve goals.


 Type 5 - OBSERVER


Life Strategy: I drain and conserve energy for the accumulation of knowledge.

Type 5 people give the impression that they know absolutely everything. Indeed, their range of thinking is very wide and deep, knowledge encyclopedic, scientific. You are in no hurry to share your wisdom unless you are confident that your interlocutors are well-educated to understand it and are genuinely interested in a particular topic. The outside world and relationships with people are frightening because they take away their personal time and energy.

Verbal and non-verbal features:
- Long pauses, laconic answers, dry emotionless language, complex phrases.

- Poor gesticulation, exploratory gaze, neutral face, estranged.
- Communicating gives you the feeling that you are not smart enough and knowledgeable. Discomfort due to lack of emotional feedback.

Beliefs:

  • The surrounding world is dangerous. The fear of the outside world encourages 5 gather information. They are frightened by unknown things, so they try to find a system to understand how the world works and to anticipate possible changes. I don't like surprises and surprises (even nice ones). I prefer to observe events from a distance, not contact.
  • Mind is the only objective source, and feelings are volatile and subjective. 5 dissociate themselves from their feelings and try to evaluate them objectively. They also react badly to other people's emotions, making them feel closed and uncomfortable. In fact, if it protects its vulnerability. Only the greatest amount of information, planning and avoiding potential problems helps to feel more confident.
  • Resources are limited and may not be sufficient. Because of this belief, they tend to distance themselves from the environment, to store and store resources, information, and energy. Try to get the most out of the environment without wasting your energy.

Risk:

Independence. The need for security encourages 5 to minimize contact with the outside world. They think that the less you expect from other people, the less you expect from them. He likes to be with himself, in his own reflections. Independence is more important to them than material things, so their physical needs are very modest and they do not care about social status. This feature allows you to take the strangest ideas and lead to new discoveries.

Stress / Comfort:

To 7 (Enthusiast): Starts looking for simple, superficial solutions, becoming more extroverted.

To 8 (Boss): Feeling the surge of power, becoming more spontaneous, more confident, more determined. Draws attention to carnal senses, expresses feelings.


Type 6 - Skeptic / Loyalist


Life Strategy: Seek for support and confidence by doubting and checking.

They are the most loyal people who stay loyal to a person, project or idea, even when everyone turns around. They know how to look deeper into a beautiful facade and see hidden motifs and nuances. They are nice, good people helping the weaker. But they have another side. Skepticism is one of their main characteristics. 6 are constantly in doubt, looking for flaws, potential problems. Do not trust yourself, so look for authority outside. However, later addictions start to frighten and overrule, check and provoke addictions.

Verbal and non-verbal features:

- Many concrete examples, considerations and contradictions. You can talk and listen at the same time, long sentences, fast language.

- Asymmetric posture, triggered shoulders, hands in pockets, unreliable running gaze.
- When communicating, you feel as though you do not trust. Willingness to put in effort to calm down and reduce suspicion.


Beliefs:

  • Nothing can be guaranteed. 6 tolerate black / white. The more categorical the opinion of someone, the more doubt it causes. There is a strong impulse to oppose it, to look for flaws and alternatives. Because they do not have a strong position themselves, and always feel unsure, they try to undermine other people's confidence.
  • Before making a decision, it is necessary to analyze all the consequences, especially the negative ones. One might think of it as pessimism, but 6 see it as realism. The more responsible the decision, the more doubts arise. In making their decision, they reflect on all the negative consequences, and if they are determined to do so, they take all precautionary measures. Like x-rays, people see secret or subconscious motives.
  • I'm a loyal friend if I trust him. They can keep friendships from childhood, be very loyal to life, but friends have to go through many challenges to gain trust. Defends your own or weaker ones. They tend to sacrifice for justice and equality.


Risk:
Authorities. A complex and controversial relationship with authority. 6-year-olds lack faith in the world and in themselves, which encourages them to look for something they can trust. But he also realizes that power and authority can be exercised, so he wants to break free from it and build self-confidence. You can fight, rebel against established ideologies, rules.

Stress / Comfort:

To 3 (Achiever): Become proactive, though unsure of the consequences.

To 9 (Peacemaker): Becomes more open, more relaxed, stops analyzing and checking everything. Discovers a connection with one's feelings and those of others.

 

Type  7 - ENTHUSIAST

Life Strategy: To seek pleasure by focusing only on positive things.

7 are full of ideas and can infect those around them. They always want and know how to have a great time. Pleasure and fun can quickly make you an unplanned trip, adore surprises and make new acquaintances. The problems do not exist for them, they are only a source of inspiration. They see prospects and opportunities all around, quickly generate ideas.

Verbal and non-verbal features:

- Speaks quickly and a lot, empathizes, breaks easily, asks what they are interested in.

- Expressive gesticulation, open smiling face, youthful, intoxicated with positivity.

- A wave of positivity, temptation, playfulness floods with communication. This man seems to be doing well.


Beliefs:

  • My dreams are more interesting than reality. 7 like to dream. They like to talk about their strangest plans in such a picturesque way that they look really realistic. The images in the heads of the 7 are so realistic that you no longer have to implement them. Planning itself gives satisfaction, so many plans remain unfulfilled.
  • The world is full of pleasures. The 7 thought life was too short to waste thoughts of trouble. They sort of filter out bad events from their lives, or they try to see the good. They strive to be in a good mood and entertain others. They are well aware of their needs and do not shy away from asking.
  • It is better to know a little at a time than to know something deep. 7 don't show patience. They quickly get tired of the same activity and rarely delve into something as new ideas and opportunities are constantly on the horizon. Others regard them as superficial and call themselves broad-minded people.

Risk:

Pleasures. The most important thing in life is to be happy, to experience as many pleasures as possible. But beneath the fast pace of life, full of new impressions, lies the fear of encountering real reality, which can sink like an avalanche of unpleasant experiences, worthless relationships, and a feeling of emptiness. Work is also a source of enjoyment for them, but despite their wide interests, knowledge is often superficial and limited, which hampers successful implementation. Avoids any obligation because of the need for freedom.

Stress / Comfort:

To 1 (Perfectionist): There is an inner critic, a restriction of freedom, but it helps to finish the job.

To 5 (Observer): Calms down, plans get concrete, potential for realization. Immersed in reflection, enjoying intellectual conversations.


Type 8 - BOSS


Life strategy: Be strong and in control.

8 know what they want from life, and take it without scruples. They are always ahead and in a leading position. Ready to take responsibility because they know exactly what's right and what's wrong. They are straight-forward, say straight what they think without any curtain or diplomacy. They literally exert power and energy. Take care of your own.

Verbal and non-verbal features:

- The voice feels power, speaks loud, straightforward, without scruples can curse, likes black humor.

- Straight, steady gaze, overbearing gestures, ignores personal space.
- Communication involves a strong sense of strength and pressure. Willingness to withstand provocation, and to prove your strength, to represent your position.


Beliefs:

  • Everything in life requires struggle. The 8s are always "on standby". Fighting for their desires, beliefs, territory. Believes that you cannot let go of control so that it is not used. You need to be strong enough to withstand any stroke of life. Takes initiative and responsibility. But at the same time, he is convinced that all else is to blame for something else.
  • People are divided into strong and weak. 8-year-olds think very categorically, only black and white exist. On the one hand, such thinking helps to make decisions because it has clear and unambiguous orientations, but on the other hand it does not allow to understand different opinions, different strategies. The only thinking that is understandable, acceptable and correct to them is theirs. And those who are not with them are against them.
  • If I show my weakness, it can hurt me. This belief has to do with internal vulnerability, the achilles heel, or the life needle hidden in the egg. It is clear that large armor hides something particularly sensitive and vulnerable. Addiction makes the 8 helpless, so they can only open themselves to the closest people they trust.

Risk:

Control. You want to always control the situation and have control in your hands. I am afraid that someone may take it over. To avoid this, take more responsibility than is needed in that situation. Control gives you a sense of security. However, they are not interested in dominating the weak, they need to have authority among the strong. As a result, they often provoke people around them to bring out their personal qualities.

Stress / Comfort:

To 5 (Observer): He retreats as if he enters a shell to rebuild and develop a new strategy.

To 2 (Helper): Become empathetic, sweet, and kind. Trying to help even the uneducated.


Type 9 - PEACEMAKER

Life Strategy: To achieve harmony, calm and maintain a positive state of mind.
More than anyone else, 9 learn to create an atmosphere of harmony and comfort. Their presence alone reduces existing conflicts and prevents new ones from arising. They are well aware of the positions of all sides and can empathize with their situation. Provides unconditional support without asking for anything and even pushing aside your own needs. They are calm, positive, kind and peaceful people.

Verbal and non-verbal features:
- A quiet, gentle voice, with a tinge of intonation, significant self-portrayals.
- Quiet, slow, passive. Gestures are minimal. A stifling gaze.
- Communicates with a comfortable, relaxed atmosphere. A sense of community, a dull calm.

Beliefs:

  • The most important thing is harmony. 9 cannot tolerate conflicts, even causing them physical discomfort. So by all means try to avoid or mitigate it. It takes a closer look at each person's needs and sees a more complete picture of the situation, which in turn allows for a better decision. They are ready to sacrifice their wishes and opinions in the name of peace. It is not your responsibility not to be guilty if something goes wrong.
  • It's not me that matters. For 9 it is difficult not only to have their own opinions but also to recognize their own wishes and needs. It is much easier and more convenient for them to connect with another person, to feel their needs, than to try to satisfy their own. They think that expressing one's own needs can disrupt harmony.
  • 80% of problems are solved by themselves, so you don't have to waste energy. 9 have a special attitude to time. They have enough time, so they don't see the sense to rush somewhere. It feels even in their speech and movements. They like to delay everything, especially when it comes to something unpleasant. Sometimes they get it right and the problems actually solve themselves, but sometimes it causes even bigger problems. Delay also applies to problems in relationships.

Risk:

Inner sanatorium. If 9 are unable to create peace and harmony around themselves, they tend to vent their thoughts and emotions to their inner sanatorium. There they can hide, regain strength, and have good memories. However, this builds up unresolved problems on the outside, and suppressed negative emotions sometimes erupt with uncontrollable force.

Stress / Comfort:

To 6 (Skeptic / Loyalist): Starts designing worst case scenarios. Becomes irritable, mistrustful and accusatory.

To 3 (Achiever): Becomes very productive, raises energy levels, and begins to enjoy working.